Firefly Counseling Services, P.C.
4950 NE Belknap Ct. Suite 205
Hillsboro, OR 97124
The practice is located on the corner of Belknap Ct. and Elam Young Pkwy next to Intel Hawthorne Farms.
Buisness Hours: We are in the office Monday-Friday with appointment times ranging from 8AM-6PM. If you are having a mental health emergency and need immediete assistance please call the Washington County Crisis Line at 503-291-9111 or the Multnomah County Crisis Line at 503-988-4888 or proceed to your nearest emergency room for assistance.
"We don't accomplish anything in this world alone...and whatever happens is the result of the whole tapestry of one's life and all the weavings of individual threads from one to another that
-Sandra Day O'Connor
What to expect in couples therapy:
The first session:
The focus of the first session is to gather information about what brings the couple into therapy. At times couples have had an incident or trauma that has triggered the need for therapy (such as an affair, loss of a job, a major conflict, etc.) or they may simply be interested in strengthening their relationship. The couple can expect to discuss the history of their relationship, individual histories, strengths of their relationship and overall goals they wish to achieve together with their therapist.
Each partner can expect to meet with their therapist for an individual session to explore history and personal perspective; however the majority of sessions are conducted with both members of the relationship. Time spent in couples therapy is goal-directed and guided by the treatment plan that is co-created with the couple and the therapist. It is helpful to come into sessions ready to discuss recent progress and challenges. While stories about what is going on in the relationship are helpful for demonstrating progress or challenges, we avoid focusing too much on the details and try to look at the bigger picture of the relationship in each session. Often, couples are given homework or “things to work on” in between each session. This helps generalize progress from work in the therapy room to day-to-day life outside of therapy.
The role of the couple’s therapist:
In couples therapy the relationship is our client. Many people enter couples therapy expecting to have the therapist act as somewhat of a referee; however we find this to rarely be helpful and instead often leads to one or both partners feeling as if their therapist has “chosen sides.” Instead we act in a manner to help you strengthen your relational skills, developing a deeper understanding of your own needs and the needs of your partner. We will work together to identify patterns and interactions that may need shifting.
We have found that couples are most successful when they begin with weekly sessions and as progress is made we will lengthen the time in between each session. It is common for couples to achieve their goals in 4-6 months, but many couples visit intermittently (once a month or once every other month) to maintain their progress.
Anything that the couple feels comfortable talking about is open for discussion. While we do not specialize in sex therapy, much of the work that we have done with couples has involved discussing their sexual relationship. If you think you would benefit from working with a therapist that specializes in sex therapy we would be happy to make a referral.
Intensive Couples Counseling:
If you are searching for intensive couples counseling that can be launched or completed over a weekend, please see our page regarding Intensive Couples Counseling for more information about this program or option for care.
-Sara Pitkanen, M.Ed. LMFT